Part 3: Quest for Happiness Series

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What do men want?

In all the discussions about what makes a wife happy (see Quest for Happiness Series: What Women Really Want & The Equality Myth), it strikes us that the happiness of husbands is often overlooked.

Actually, it’s rarely on the agenda. That in itself says something about us as a society. Perhaps this is because one of the most significant things that contributes to a husband’s happiness is his wife’s satisfaction.

When she’s happy, he feels successful in the marriage. When she’s unhappy, it translates as failure for him.

A husband instinctively will assume responsibility for his wife’s happiness, and on the whole, most wives agree he isresponsible, even if only subconsciously. When a wife is unhappy in the marriage, it is NEVER her fault! Of course, when a man is unhappy in the marriage, that’s his fault as well!

If there is one thing that is guaranteed to suck the life out of a husband and crush his spirit, it’s an unhappy, critical wife. When a wife persistently complains and nags and criticizes her husband, he eventually gives up trying. He concludes that she just can’t be satisfied.

In contrast, an affirming wife empowers him to be the best he can be in all endeavors, including in their marriage.

Francine & Byron Pirola
Francine & Byron Pirola are the authors SmartLoving Series and the founders of the Stick Kit. They have worked with thousands of couples in several countries over the past 20 years. They have been married since 1988 and have five children.
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